15 Ways to Help Kids Like Themselves
1. Tell me something you like about yourself? Help your child to focus on her many strengths. 2. Reinforce the positives. Give praise, recognition, a special privilege or increasedresponsibility for a job well done. 3. Define limits and rules clearly. A family council is an excellent place to discuss, explainand get a sense of ownership to the rules. Discuss what consequences will follow if therules are not followed. Don't have a lot of rules, maybe four or five, but be consistent atfollowing them. 4. Give your children responsibility to make the house a home. Everyone in the familyshould be responsible for some household chores daily. Responsibility makes them feelvalued and part of the team. 5. Don't re-do their jobs. If you expect perfection, it is too easy for them to quit trying orelse hope that you will step in and "save them" when it gets difficult. 6. Laugh at their jokes and listen attentively when they are talking to you. Being fullypresent when you are with your child is the only quality time there is. 7. If they don't fit in, teach them basic social skills. There are a number of behaviors thatcan be learned to help the "left out" child to fit into the group more easily. 8. Show them that what they do is important to you. Talk to them about activities andinterests. Help them to find a hobby or interest that they excel at. Go to their games,presentations and activities. 9. Help them to set goals. Teach them to break each long-range goal into manageable bites. It is important to succeed at something ever day. Acknowledge your own successes sothey can be more aware of progress they are making. 10. Don't punish them for telling the truth. Discuss problems without placing blame orattacking the child's character. Worry less about "who did this?" and more about"Let's get this mess cleaned up." If a child knows he has made a bad choice but doesn'tfeel attacked, he will feel more secure in trying to find solutions. 11. Create opportunities to give service and to develop tolerance for others with differentvalues and backgrounds. These experiences can help a child to see himself in reference tothe rest of the world and to be more understanding of the needs of others. 12. Give them opportunities to make decisions. Help them to see that each decision haspros and cons and may have consequences for themselves and others. If they want to dosomething that is clearly harmful, explain why you cannot allow them to act on it. 13. Teach them to deal with money and time wisely. When children are organized andresponsible for their homework and allowance, it breeds self-assurance and personalresponsibility. 14. Be a good role model. Let your children know that you feel good about yourself, but alsoteach them by example that mistakes aren't final but learning experiences. 15. Start and end each day on a positive and loving note. Give lots of hugs, kisses and highfives. Let them know on a consistent basis that your love is unconditional and that you areproud of them as a member of the family. You may occasionally be disappointed in theiractions or choices, but will always be available for support. © Judy H. Wright, Author, Speaker and Life Educator www.ArtichokePress.com This article was written by Judy Wright, parent educator and author. Feel free to use it in your newsletter or publication, but please give full credit to the author and mention the contact information of JudyWright@ArtichokePress.com, 406-549-9813. You will find a full listing of books, tapes, newsletters and workshops available on finding the heart of the story in the journey of life by going to www.ArtichokePress.com
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New class at North Shore Yoga designed for childrenChattanooga Times Free Press, TN - 2 hours agoA children’s yoga class unravels more noisily than adult versions of this ancient Indian practice. “There are a lot of active poses,” said Claire Mooney, ... |
Ventura Harbor Village hosts outdoor yogaVentura County Reporter, CA - 1 hour agoBy Alex Wilson 11/20/2008 Yoga enthusiasts mix their routines with sunshine, ocean air and views of sailboats gliding by during a series of “Gentle Outdoor ... |
Urban yoga: finding inner peace in the cityABC15.com (KNXV-TV), AZ - 16 hours agoWith the usually hectic holiday season kicking off, a brand new yoga sanctuary and studio has opened up in Phoenix. Be kind to yourself by accepting where ... |
Yoga master travels to area to teach her tradeFrederick News Post (subscription), MD - Nov 18, 2008By Ashley Andyshak The gymnasium at the William R. Talley Recreation Center transformed Tuesday from basketball courts into a yoga studio. ... |
Ahwatukee a tough home for yoga studiosArizona Republic, AZ - Nov 18, 200818, 2008 09:03 AM Several Ahwatukee Foothills freestanding yoga studios have closed after fewer than five years in business. Some teachers and students say ... |
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