검색어를 입력하십시오. 검색양식 제출   Web DrHoon.net

Accepting and Embracing Your Sexual Self

What are you hiding?

C'mon?you know you're hiding something.

Is it that you like anal sex??That you like to have sex with women and men alike?? That you are dominant??That you like to be tied-up?

What is it? C'mon, you can tell me.

It's just between the two of us. I won't tell anyone - and you'll feel better if you tell someone!

Don't believe me? Find a person that you feel is non-judgmental and that you can trust. Tell them, and see for yourself. What? You say that's easier said than done?

What if someone SEEMS non-judgmental, and you think you can trust them, but then you're wrong. You certainly won't be feeling much better when your secret is out.

You know, you're right. But you know what else? Interestingly, more than likely that person who would be talking about your thing, HAS THEIR VERY OWN THING, TOO?and they keep it just as tightly wrapped up as yours. They, too, wonder what others might think?wonder if they're a bad person, or if something is wrong with them because their interest isn't in the mainstream of the conservative, "OK" sexual realm. All the while, though, they have a sense of guilty enjoyment from the pleasure that draws them to do it in the first place.

The thing is, though, that while they're off talking about another's thing, they keep attention away from they own, and they are SURE TO LET OTHERS KNOW THAT THEY'RE NOT LIKE THAT. Funny how we human beings are, covering parts of ourselves that we actually have in common with others, but don't know it because we're too busy hiding it.

I'd be willing to bet there may even be atleast one person who would read this and say, "Not me! I'm not hiding anything!" If that is you, you might want to consider if you are denying a part of yourself because you feel that it's wrong to have the interest/desire/feeling that you have. So, truly you aren't really hiding it, but rather just denying it?all the while you ARE IT!

Interesting, don'tja think?

Now, of course, I could be off base here. My experience is what I have come to base my thoughts on. It seems to me that sex and sexual matters are the last taboo in our society. It is the one thing that is not supposed to be "out there" for public consumption. As a pleasurable activity, some would say it isn't even supposed to be there for private consumption. It is one of those things that is being pushed down, pushed aside, covered up, while all the time still living quite a fertile life.

Has anyone considered that the more it's covered up and hidden, the more it is made the thing that shouldn't be done, the more likely some will want to do it, or try it?

Ever do something that you weren't supposed to be allowed to do - and then wonder what the charge was? Or perhaps you went the other way?you got a big charge out of it because you were doing something you weren't supposed to do?

Think about this. People have sex in their office or an elevator, or in other "off limits" places because they're "off limits." It probably wasn't until someone said; "No, this is not acceptable" that couples lined up and said, "Let's have sex HERE!" I wonder how many people would be having sex in these types of places if suddenly anyone could do it anywhere.

Now, before you think I support having sex anywhere, let me say, given how things have been, if suddenly it was OK, I would imagine for awhile people would be doing it just about anywhere. But, I would also imagine that the reaction would wear off after a time, and people would cease to do it JUST BECAUSE THEY COULD, but rather because they wanted to. Maybe there would even be a reversion to "let's just do this for us" behind closed doors.

Oftentimes, I think people REACT vs. ACT. They don't realize it at the time. But the minute someone says they can't do something - they NEED to do that very same thing.

There's an expression what you resist, PERSISTS. If we as a society resist certain sexual behaviors, they will likely continue on a larger scale than those who are vocal about it would like. On a more personal level, resisting a part of who you are - or think you could be - will only have that part of you continue to haunt and taunt you. Allow it, and you may find that the driving power it seemed to have diminishing, and you'll be free to be or not to be, to do or not to do, and no longer be at its mercy.

I realize, again, that this may just sound a little too easy of a solution, while it feels to you to be quite a difficult thing to allow. However, I have had many conversations with people regarding these types of things, and once they released themselves from another's restraints (opinions and judgments), they found relief.

Given the nature of what I have written, I feel compelled to speak to the following: as long as humans continue to make judgments about what they think is "wrong", "right", "good", "bad", there will always be a diversity of opinions on the assessments of another, based on another's relative experience. For that reason, someone can always find a way to justify their own behavior. This article was written with the greatest of respect for people and their sexual nature. It was not intended in any way to promote any sexual behavior or tendencies.

Since I care a great deal for others, it is my belief that it is important for us to be true to ourselves, but not to the detriment of another. What has been written here was written in this context, and it is my desire that a person reading this, who has been fighting aspects of their sexual persona, has been provided a prospective that provides an alternative to their current experience.

Essa has a varied, non-judgmental, and fun approach to the work she does as a StressBusterBuddy. She works primarily with individuals on a one-on-one basis, and is the Author and Publisher of a mindful meditation CD. To learn more about Essa, her CD, or to listen to her online recordings, visit http://www.StopKickingYourself.com/or call 212.560.7582 (where you can also hear a 3-minute Relieve Stress Recording - only local, toll, or long distance charges apply).

Yoga Videos

   

Group Finds Benefits of Laughter Yoga in St. Louis Park FOX 9 News, MN - 12 hours ago Every week, a small group gathers at the Lenox Community Center in St. Louis Park for laughter yoga. Molly Dworsky was trained in laughter yoga in ...

Haber 27

In India, Lessons on Yoga and on Life Haber 27, Turkey - 3 hours ago Along the shore, other men pace the My wife and I have come to Pondicherry in southeast India mostly for the yoga. The classes used to be held in one of the ...

Yoga would help kids WatertownDailyTimes.com,  United States - 1 hour ago I just finished reading the Thursday, Oct. 2, article titled "Massena yoga program is stalled" and I am a bit confused. I'm a person with a very strong ...

Yoga & U celebrates 10 years, plans charity drive Asbury Park Press, NJ - 8 hours ago By Heather Keefe • Reader Submitted • October 7, 2008 On October 17, Yoga & U will mark its 10th anniversary of yoga instruction and community service in ...

Yoga for Sex Kerala Online, India - 6 hours ago yoga enables men and women alike to tap into their sexual energy like never before. Yoga offers myriad physical and emotional benefits that add up to more ...

What yoga can do for you Inquirer.net, Philippines - Oct 6, 2008 And where there are millions of people whose lives have been transformed, or at the very least, improved by the practice of yoga, then you know that ...

Customized Green Yoga Mats Green Muze, Canada - 14 hours ago Yogamatic.com, in conjunction with Global Green, is offering you a double-eco-yoga-whammy. You can order a fabulous individualized eco-yoga mat with a ...

Yoga Clinic for Runners KBCI CBS 2, ID - 18 hours ago By Tara Mussulman Topic: Come find out how cross training with yoga can enhance your running and keep you running for life. Bio: Shannon Wells-Femenia, CMT, ...

OneNewsNow

NY parents raise issues re: yoga in schools OneNewsNow, MS - 19 hours ago A group of concerned parents are expressing concern over yoga classes being taught in the classroom. According to an Associated Press report, ...

• Yoga can build a better runner The Post-Standard - Syracuse.com, NY - 22 hours ago If you have still not signed on to the benefits of yoga as a runner, here are some reminders as to why you should jump on the wagon. ...